“To return to love, to get the love we always wanted but never had, to have the love we want but are not prepared to give, we seek romantic relationships. We believe these relationships, more than any other, will rescue and redeem us. True love does have the power to redeem but only if we are ready for redemption. Love saves us only if we want to be saved.”
— bell hooks
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We often look to romantic relationships to rescue us, forgetting that love only saves us when we are ready to do the inner work. bell hooks wrote: “To return to love, to get the love we always wanted but never had, to have the love we want but are not prepared to give, we seek romantic relationships. We believe these relationships, more than any other, will rescue and redeem us. True love does have the power to redeem but only if we are ready for redemption. Love saves us only if we want to be saved.” What does healing before loving mean to you? Let's chat in the comments below! 👇✨
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How often do we enter romantic relationships hoping another person will heal the wounds we refuse to look at? bell hooks gently reminds us that true love is not a rescue mission, nor is a partner a substitute for our own inner healing. We cannot expect to receive a depth of love that we are unwilling to cultivate within ourselves and extend outward. Romance often becomes our hiding place, a desperate bid to be saved by someone else's affection when the hardest, most sacred work requires us to save ourselves first. Yet, this realization is not meant to discourage us, but to liberate us. When we stop viewing love as a magical cure and start treating it as a spiritual practice—requiring readiness, vulnerability, and mutual care—everything shifts. True redemption and transformation become possible the very moment we take responsibility for our own hearts. By preparing ourselves to truly give love, we finally open the door to receive the deep, healing connection we have always craved.
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