“A yet women -good women- frightened me because they eventually wanted your soul, and what was left of mine, I wanted to keep. Basically I craved prostitutes, base women, because they were deadly and hard and made no personal demands. Nothing was lost when they left. Yet at the same time I yearned for a gentle, good woman, despite the overwhelming price.”
— Charles Bukowski
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“A yet women -good women- frightened me because they eventually wanted your soul, and what was left of mine, I wanted to keep... Yet at the same time I yearned for a gentle, good woman, despite the overwhelming price.” Bukowski captures the timeless struggle between protecting our hearts and the deep longing for authentic love. Do you ever find yourself building walls to avoid the 'price' of intimacy? Share your thoughts below. 👇
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Many of us walk through life building invisible walls, convinced that protecting our inner peace means keeping others at a distance. Bukowski’s words touch upon a universal human paradox: the terrifying tension between the desire for deep, authentic connection and the fear of the vulnerability it requires. We often choose the 'safe' path—relationships that demand nothing of us—only to find that while nothing is lost, nothing is ever truly gained. This emotional survival mechanism protects our soul, but it also leaves us starving for the very intimacy we fear. True growth begins when we realize that the 'overwhelming price' of love—the risk of being seen, judged, or hurt—is actually the only currency that buys a meaningful life. To be fully known is to be fully alive. If you find yourself longing for a gentle love while fearing the cost, remember that the most beautiful versions of ourselves are often forged in the fires of vulnerability. Stop protecting a version of yourself that is lonely; instead, brave the price of admission to a love that actually sees you.
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