“It's no good trying to get rid of your own aloneness. You've got to stick to it all your life. Only at times, at times, the gap will be filled in. At times! But you have to wait for the times. Accept your own aloneness and stick to it, all your life. And then accept the times when the gap is filled in, when they come. But they've got to come. You can't force them.”
— D.H. Lawrence
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We often exhaust ourselves trying to outrun our solitude, but what if our aloneness wasn't a flaw to be fixed? D.H. Lawrence reminds us: “It's no good trying to get rid of your own aloneness. You've got to stick to it all your life. Only at times, at times, the gap will be filled in. At times! But you have to wait for the times. Accept your own aloneness and stick to it, all your life. And then accept the times when the gap is filled in, when they come. But they've got to come. You can't force them.” Drop a 🤍 in the comments if this resonates with your journey today.
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In a world that constantly tells us to constantly seek connection, D.H. Lawrence offers a radical and deeply comforting truth: our aloneness is not a flaw to be fixed, but a fundamental part of the human condition to be embraced. We often exhaust ourselves trying to outrun solitude, filling every quiet moment with noise or company, only to feel more isolated. True peace begins the moment we stop fighting our own solitude and learn to sit with it patiently. Yet, this isn't a message of despair; it is an invitation to grace. Lawrence reminds us that while we must walk through life with our own inner solitude, magic still happens. Connection, love, and profound belonging do arrive—not because we forced them, but because life brings them in its own quiet, unhurried time. By accepting our aloneness as a natural state, we free ourselves to fully cherish those rare, beautiful moments when the gap is bridged and our hearts feel completely full.
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